My Approach

Early relational and environmental experiences affect our attitudes about ourselves and how we relate to others. If our emotional needs were unmet or disrupted by trauma (big trauma; or accumulation of smaller traumas) this can lead to enduring problematic behaviors & emotional responses as an adult.

Unmet emotional needs can also manifest in current interpersonal relationships, whether professional or personal. The way our caretakers attuned to our emotions and scaffolded our sense of agency, lays out the relational model in which we continue to operate as adults. E.g., we may continue to put other’s needs above our own because this was the relational model that was internalized throughout upbringing. When our own emotional needs are not met, often times frustration then compounds to anger and resentment. In therapy, I utilize the therapy relationship to reshape relational attitudes stuck in the past, and to promote healthier ways of relating to oneself and others.

1x a week therapy cadence is expected as you are learning to prioritize your emotions and self agency. In addition, the insights that emerge during this change process are most effectively integrated with greater continuity.